Words

Is Twitter killing your leadership?

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Leaders need to remember that one either tears down or builds up when it comes to words.  Unlike before, written words have gone mainstream, anyone can put them out there for everyone to see.  Before this time, you were either a professional writer with your own words or a professional writer quoting someone else that you gained access to and had permission from.  But not today, more than 90% of the words I look at in a day are by normal people like you and me, wanting the world to know more about them.  

So have you paused to consider the power of your words?  Leaders have to be conscious that words in places like Twitter, Facebook, or any other social network are either public encouragement or public criticism.  Leader needs to have made a decision before logging into a SN; that decision is either, "I am here to build," or "I am here to tear down."  

I hope as a leader you recognize the significant divide that exists between the two.  

What are you doing as a leader to monitor the words you use across social media channels?

 

You're so right you're wrong

Leadership is knowing what not to do as much as it is knowing what to do.  Is that confusing?  Here's what I mean: 1.  When you delegate you keep watch, you don't suffocate.  When you delegate a task but then take it back,  you're teaching your people you don't trust them.  Don't give chances for people to prove themselves only to take them back.

2.  Don't triangulate conflict.  If you're leading other leaders, help them to go directly to those they are frustrated with.  Don't involve everyone in the midst of conflict, it only  sustains drama.

3.  Don't commit to any tasks that strays from the vision of the team.

4.  Don't take credit for other people's ideas and work.

5.  Don't function out of self preservation or advancement.  Ideas are best when they benefit everyone and improve the lives of other people.

Saying "no" is maybe the most effective tool we have for leading well.  However, most of the time we don't need to say it to others; we need to say it to ourselves.

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Where do Ideas come from?

Leaders who interpret leadership incorrectly say, "I have a great idea."The best ideas come from people who are closest to the work, those who we are probably leading. Great leaders recognize when change is coming and call out new ideas from within their people.

Key Phrases for Leaders longing for growth and change:

"I see __________ happening, how do you think we should solve that?"

"What am I not doing?"

"Is there anything I can be helping you with?"

"Is there anything we are doing that you think needs to go?"

"I'm sorry."

"That's my fault."

"What's something new that YOU think we could be doing?

"WE need YOU to be creative"

Phrases used by those who have permission to express ideas, they say:

"Thanks for letting me do this."

"Thanks for believing in me."

"I really enjoy our time together."

"Your fly is unzipped."

"You have something in your teeth."

"When you slipped and fell, that was so funny."

(The last three indicate that your people really feel like they can be honest and creative)

Watch your people; give them space and the opportunity to create new ideas.  You'll see something engage in their hearts like watching a room full of high school folks engage this beat:

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Don't act like you don't want to Dougie too.