The Worst Way You Could Fall in Love

I’m sure it’s happened to you before. You’ve gotten hurt or you’ve been betrayed. Isolation follows the hurt and you want to give up. There is a period of time with lots of confusion, nothing really adds up. You have thoughts of running away, finding a new place to exist so you don’t have to live with daily reminders of how it failed. Any of this familiar to you?

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This is what happens when you and I as leaders fall in love with an idea.

The idea may be a new relationship that is going to make problems go away.

The idea may be a new way to generate revenue.

The idea may be a new way to structure everything for more productivity.

The idea may be a shiny new goal.

All good things. Not one of these is something we should see as bad or risky. The wheels come off when we fall in love with an idea and the world around any of these begins to change. We can’t let go. We’re in love with an idea that no longer serves people and eventually it fails us all and breaks our hearts.

How do you know if an idea is still worth holding onto? Keep this in mind:

Love = Labor

If the idea does a work to serve those you lead than it’s worth holding onto. BUT, if the idea no longer does work for those you lead than it’s time to let go. This could be true of a relationship, or something that once generated revenue, or a former structure, and yes even in regards to some goals.  To love means it serves someone else.

The worst way for you to fall in love is with an idea that no longer serves the people you lead.

The Apostle Paul: freakin brilliant

When leading a community of people it's critical that the leader can say, "this one thing is what it's all about." Have you done this?

The apostle Paul when leading a new community of ragamuffins reminds them that they are to use their gifts and that they have entered a time and space where they will operate within three things: faith, hope and love.

How many of us wish we had a job description where the key result areas were just three things?

But then it gets even better because Paul says, "But the greatest of these is love."

Ugh, he's good.

(Somehow in the this post I have abandoned paragraphs, very Rob Bell-ish of me)

My point is that every team finds freedom in the "one thing". For the community that Paul was speaking to it always, when it doubt, boiled down to one thing: Am I demonstrating love? That's freakin brilliant leadership.

What about your team? What one thing does everything else hinge on? If you haven't communicated this you need to.

What Public Enemy teaches us about Loving Leadership

Whelp, today is Valentine's Day, so it feels necessary to talk about love.  I have to fight off any references to Tilla Tequilla, Brett Micheals, New York, or [youtube F6kfUxCpWqE]

One thought on Love and Leadership:  Scripture teaches us that love is a choice.  Choose to love people.

These things kill the passion and love your people have for your organization and your leadership:

1.  Lack of training

2.  Lack of voice

3.  Stifling their creativity

4.  You don't trust them with projects or relationships with people

5.  You never say, "Way to go!"

6.  You never say, "Thank you!"

7.  You don't challenge them

8.  You don't ask, "What can I be doing better?"

9.  They never hear from you, "Sorry, I screwed that one up."

10.  You tell them where the team is headed instead of saying, "I have this vision, how would you get us there?"

Can you imagine a world where Chuck D said to Flavor Flav, "I'm sorry, but you think to far out of the box for Public Enemy.  We need safe people if we are going to be successful."  I'm literally fighting back tears.