For years I was the back up chaplain for the high school football team I coach but this year I got called up to be THE team chaplain. The chaplain gig is not as easy as you would think. The chaplain is there to make some kind of impact through a short pre-game message. But sometimes I get 30 seconds and sometimes I get three minutes, it all depends what the other coaches have to say to the team prior to the game starting. Not knowing a set time length makes it a challenge to prepare for but It's quite the honor to get the last word and lead the team in prayer right before they take the field! Friday nights are my favorite!
Since I never know how much time I'll have, I've focused on saying the same reminder each time this year. The reminder is this, "The greatest adventures I've had in life are with people who possessed the same three qualities:
1. They're generous
2. They're grateful
3. They have a sense of urgency
This is how I would describe someone who is brave. And so, each week I get to challenge over 100 high school kids with this question, "Will you be the the person others want to go on an adventure with?"
What about you? Are you a person others want to go on a adventure with?
Let me tell you how I landed on these three things:
1. Generosity - Generous people have fought past their fear of scarcity. It's pretty hard to go on an adventure with someone who believes there simply isn't enough (fill in the blank) to go around. More than likely, when you hear the word generous your first thought goes to money but I don't think generosity is only about money. You can be generous with your gifts, energy, time, family, home, food, etc. Whatever it is you can give away, do it.
2. Gratefulness - Grateful people have more joy in their life. Too often the focus of life becomes the next thing. And the next thing. And the next thing. We think things like, "Once I graduate life will be better." "Once I start a new job everything will be different." "If i were in a relationship with this person it would fix so much." If you find yourself constantly needing something new in your life you might want to evaluate your level of gratefulness. Now, I believe in "new." I believe in everyone's opportunity to have a better life and we will talk about that next. But the other side to the coin is we can believe exterior things will bring us interior comfort and too often we create idols instead of making a dent in the world. I've noticed that grateful people leave a bigger dent.
3. Sense of Urgency - People who don't live in the fear of scarcity and are grateful for their life have a sense of urgency to make an impact. They think thoughts like, "There's probably something good out there if I go get it." Simply put, they are activators in regards to good things. They create art and they ship it. They do what only they can do and they do it often. They have a voice that matters and they share it. They can listen to people well so they ask good questions. But they don't wait for someone else to create the mold so they can live in it, they have a sense of urgency to leave a legacy.
The good news is that this could be any of us. These characteristics are not limited to a final few chosen. You know where I think we learn to live this way? By finding others who do live this way and do life with them. So look around. Who do you know who's living this way? Ask that person to a cup of coffee so you can ask them how they became that way. Better yet, buy them a meal and find out what makes them tick. You'll be grateful you did!
Let's go have more adventures.